There’s this weird phenomenon I keep bumping into—maybe you’ve felt it too.
You walk into something not knowing how hard it’s going to be.
You’ve got just enough confidence to say yes.
And then it hits: this is way harder than I thought.
It stretches you.
It exhausts you.
It humbles you.
You almost walk away—or at least wonder if you should.
But then, somehow… you get through it.
And when you come out the other side, you realize something quietly life-changing:
You’re more capable than you thought you were.
The Arc of “I Can’t” to “I Did”
It’s strange how growth sneaks up on you.
You start off with one set of assumptions:
- This will probably be manageable.
- I’ll work within my current limits.
- I’ll stay in the zone of what I know how to do.
And then the challenge arrives and laughs at all of that.
You have to learn faster.
Stretch wider.
Think deeper.
Lead, even when you weren’t given the title.
Test, even when no one defined the scope.
Speak up, even when your voice shakes.
It’s terrifying. And messy. And often unfair.
But then—somehow—you do the thing.
And it doesn’t kill you.
And now you can’t unknow that you’re capable of more.
That doesn’t mean you want to do it all again.
But it does mean you carry a new kind of confidence—not the loud, flashy kind, but the grounded kind that says:
“I’ve walked through fire before. I didn’t love it, but I’m still here.”
The Danger of Underestimating Yourself
When you’re just starting something—new role, new company, new toolset—it’s easy to look at your current skill set and assume, This is what I have to work with.
But most of the time, what you can do tomorrow doesn’t show up on today’s resume.
You only find out by being asked.
By being stretched.
By being given too much—just barely too much—and learning how to carry it anyway.
The hard part is: you don’t know what you’re capable of until you’re already in it.
There’s no shortcut to that.
What I’m Learning to Trust
I’m learning (slowly) that this kind of growth usually starts with a moment of ignorance—not in a shameful way, but in a pure, honest way:
I don’t know how this will go.
I don’t know what I’m capable of.
I’m about to find out.
That’s not a failure of planning.
That’s the beginning of learning.
And when I look back at the hardest, most important moments in my life and career, that’s the pattern:
- Ignorance
- Struggle
- Breakthrough
- Quiet, unshakeable strength
If You’re In the Middle
If you’re in the middle of that arc—where it feels like too much and you’re wondering whether you’re enough—I hope you’ll hear this:
You don’t have to know yet.
You’re allowed to struggle.
And it’s entirely possible that the part of you that’s currently overwhelmed is also the part of you that’s growing stronger.
You’re not stuck—you’re stretching.
Give it time.
Keep walking.
And don’t be surprised when, later, you look back and say:
“I didn’t know I could do that.”
But you did.
And now you know.
—
Beau Brown
Testing in the real world: messy, human, worth it.
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